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Parshas Devorim: Bain HaMetzorim
by Mordechai Dolinsky
I have been observing in recent years that people have difficulty in emotionally relating to the Churban. I suspect that one of the main factors for this is a general breakdown of our emotional sensitivity, which affects all areas that our feelings and emotions are involved in, not just the Churban. The promise to Klal Yisroel that with the coming of the ‘geulah’ our “heart of stone” (lev even) will be replaced with a heart of flesh is addressing this emotional coldness that we are experiencing. A helpful suggestion to observe the mourning of the Churban is to read accounts of the recent holocaust. Unfortunately, it is easier to relate to and it is all part of the Churban and galus.
The question has always been brought up as to why the mourning of the Churban isn’t observed on the Shabbasos of Bain HaMetzorim. After all, we are mourning mainly for the spiritual tragedy, for the honor of Hashem that has fallen. The Medrash 1:21 questions why a gentile deserves to die for keeping Shabbos and explains as follows: How would a king who is enjoying a very intimate party with his queen relate to an intruder to their privacy? This is the “goi” keeping Shabbos. What an insight this is as to the meaning of Shabbos—an intimate union of Hashem and Klal Yisroel. This is the focus of Shabbos and there is no place for Churban. How vital it is that we bear this in mind while celebrating Shabbos, a party with HaShem. How amazing– the mourning of the Churban sheds such a great light on Shabbos.
A most distressing facet of the Churban is that a major factor in the destruction was executed by our fellow Jews; the cruel murder of thousands including the greatest Talmidei Chachamim. Could we ever imagine that just misguided idealism could lead one Jew to actually mass murder his fellow Jews?!!
One of the reasons for the custom of the egg at the Seder table is to relate to the Churban since the Seder night occurs the same day of the week as Tisha B’Av. What could possibly be the connection between the two? “Food” for thought. In sharing my own thoughts on the perplexity I would say as follows. The insufficient relating to Pesach eventually brought about the Churban. Pesach exclaims the kingdom of HaShem
Pesach exclaims gratitude, to HaShem and to our fellow man.
Hashem should put an end to all of our “tzaros” and to this “galus”. We should see ‘yeshuos’ and ‘nechamos’, the rebuilding of the Bais HaMikdash, and the geulal sh’layma bikarov.